"I look nothing like the girls from Sex and the City"
"My body isn't even close to the bodies in the magazines"
"My boobs are too small"
"My boobs are too big"
"I have a ghetto booty"
"I have no butt"
"I have stretchmarks"
"I have an ugly scar"
Any of these sound familiar? I'm sure at one point in your life, you have looked in the mirror and thought one of these phrases or something very similar. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are, you still focus on that "chink" in your armor. It's a fatal flaw that is overwhelming and destroys your self-esteem. Every time you look at yourself in the mirror, or want to get close to a guy, your "huge defect" comes to mind. This hits girls a lot more than guys because women are constantly comparing themselves to other women. But instead of being depressed about your body, and wishing you had the body of someone else, there are a couple things you need to realize.
The first thing you need to realize is There is no such thing as a perfect body. There is no one in the world that is completely happy with their body. Everyone would like to change something about their body, whether big or small. You would think that supermodels have the easy life, not having to worry about their bodies. But even supermodels are very self-conscious, and many even more self-conscious than normal women about their bodies. They are constantly worrying about their bodies, and even they wish they could change things about them. So there might be parts of your body that you wish were more like a supermodel, but there might be parts of a supermodel's body that she wishes was more like yours.
There is a reason that there is no such thing as a perfect body. You have heard that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", and that statement is truer then you realize. What might be the perfect body to one person, might be unattractive to another person. So before you start hating your small boobs, or your big butt, realize that every person has their own tastes, likes and dislikes. For example, read this MSN article by Christine M. Coppa.
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"Why I love women's bodies"
By Christine M. Coppa
Tall, short, plump or petite, one thing is universal-no matter what a woman's shape, there's a man out there who'll appreciate it! To prove our point, listen to what these guys have to say, and feel your confidence soar... no matter what your body type.
The pleasure of plus
"My wife is plus-size - and it's a plus in every aspect of the word - especially when it comes to spooning." - Anthony Abruccio, 39, Brooklyn, NY
Stay strong
"I like muscles! My girl's arms are cut, toned and sexy-and I love when she wraps 'em around me." - Carl Steir, 31, Clifton, NJ
Boyish bodies rock!
"I'm not lusting after the classic Playboy centerfold. My girlfriend is a 32A, and I love when she goes braless-especially in a clingy tank-top." - Dan Cooke, 24, Asotin, WA
Muscles, schmuscles...
"My girl's middle is soft and luscious and every time she complains about it, I hug her belly. I love that part of her body best-it's so womanly." - Roger Abrams, 31, Browning, MO
Short and sweet
"Everyone thinks tall models are so glamorous, but my fiancee' is just five feet tall. It's so adorable when she stands on her tippy-toes to kiss me." - Josh Cooper, 29, New York, NY
On the lean and narrow
"I've dated women of all shapes, sizes and races. I'm engaged to a tomboy with narrow hips and pin-thin legs. It's all good!" - Josh Wood, 31, Houston, TX
When thin isn't in
"I used to date a dieter. She obsessed over everything she ate and was depressed every single time she looked in the mirror. My new girlfriend loves to eat and bake. She's not thin or heavy. She's healthy, and I'm happy!" - Matt Magino, 29, Brick, NJ
Bathing beauty
"I met my current girlfriend last summer. She's plus-size, but was romping around on the beach in a bikini. There was something very confident and free in the way she moved. She didn't cover up or hide anything, and there was this fresh air about her that I really fell for." - Anthony Douglas, 28, Mission Viejo, CA
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So as you can see, each guy has their own tastes. Before you decide to go get plastic surgery, take some time to realize that what you might see as negative about your body is actually a turn on for many guys. Don't be so self-conscious about certain parts of your body. Understand that you are a lot harder on yourself than anyone will ever be, and that no one is going to focus on it like you will. And realize that you're not going to be attractive to every single guy in the world, because every guy is different. Even the most beautiful girl in the world isn't going to be attractive to every guy. You don't need to attract every single guy, you just need to attract one good one.
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