Simon Cowell has made a name for himself for being a judge on singing and talent shows on television. He has carved out a special place in people's minds by critiquing every contestant that goes before him. Now he isn't known just because he's a judge, but he's known because almost every single talent that comes in confidently, is reduced to tears as they walk off the stage by the time he's finished critiquing. The man is just plain rude.
Many times, this is what women, or even some men, think that is how the opposite sex is. I've talked to countless beautiful women who had low self-esteem because instead of seeing themself as a beautiful person, all they focus on is the "flaws" that they have. So instead of seeing what you or I see, all they see are "flaws."
Every time you walk into your house, I'm pretty sure you don't see all the flaws the house contains. You don't notice all the little holes in the wall, the tilework not being straight, paint faded or chipping, or whatever other flaws the house has. When you walk in, what do you see? You see a house. You see it as a whole. Now are the small pin-sized holes in your wall a flaw? Not really, it is what it is, it's just part of the house. You really don't even notice it. Now if you were to go through your house searching for flaws could you find any? Well of course.
But can I tell you something? Guys aren't like that. We're just like you. We see you as a beautiful girl. We don't go searching for whatever flaws you think you have. We aren't Simon Cowell trying to tear you down and critique everything about you. So quit worrying about your flaws. And for the record, most of your "flaws" aren't really flaws at all. They are just who you are. Is anyone completely happy with their body? Absolutely not. Even supermodels have parts of their body they wish they could change. We all have a list of things about our body we'd like to change. My nose is too big, I have too many moles on my body, and I don't like my feet. I have a lot more, but I just thought I'd give you a few. Luckily my head is fat, so you don't notice my nose that much. And most of my moles are smaller, so it's not that big of an issue. And honestly, who really likes their feet anyway? They're feet. So you see, even just in the few "flaws" I named about myself, they're not that big of a deal. And when you tell someone your flaws, I guarantee you they'd look at you like, "Really? I don't even see what you're talking about." So just relax a little.
Like I said, I guarantee you that most of your flaws aren't even flaws, and people will never even notice them. But what if you do have a major flaw that really bothers you? I'm sure you can think of something. Maybe it's a scar from a weird surgery. Maybe you only have 4 toes. Whatever the case may be, just take a look at Owen Wilson. You know who he is. He's the actor with the weird nose. Now I can guarantee you that you don't have a flaw that is more noticeable then him, correct? His nose is jacked up. Looks like a PLAY-DOH nose that a toddler got a hold of. People ask him all the time why he doesn't have surgery on it. I mean he has the money to change it. I'm sure a doctor would even do it for free because of who he is. But he keeps it because of who he is. It hasn't affected his career at all. He's one of the most popular movie stars right now. Doesn't affect his love life. He dates some of the most beautiful women in Hollywood. It is just part of him, that's all. But the important thing is that he doesn't let his "flaw" define who he is. He is living out his potential in spite of a nose that's not normal. And to be honest, what is normal? There are billions of people in the world, so is there really a normal?
So please stop worrying about your flaws. You're not dating Simon Cowell. We aren't looking for your flaws and unless you point them out to us, we won't even notice. And when you do point them out to us, we will just laugh at you for being so silly. Your "flaws" aren't really flaws, they are just part of you, like the part in your bedroom where the paint got chipped. Your bedroom is still super awesome, and you don't even notice the paint. Just remember that our self-esteem will only be as high as how much we accept our "flaws." So like I say a lot, "Stop being stupid." :) Unless you're dating Simon Cowell, then you're in trouble.
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