As society has progressed, a few things have changed. Our technology has gotten greater and greater, and our clothes have gotten lesser and lesser. What has happened is that not only is it acceptable for girls to wear less clothes and show more skin, but it's almost expected. And not only is it constantly getting worse, but it's starting at a younger and younger age. I'm seeing girls that look like they're in grade school wearing clothes that would make a stripper blush. Let's take a look at the problems that are caused by all of this revealing clothing.
First, is that girls, usually at a young age, see another girl wear a skimpy outfit, and they see guys staring at this girl. They see the girl get attention, so they put 2 and 2 together and come to the conclusion, "If I wear clothes where my boobs hang out, guys will like me." And they think that any attention is good attention. So pretty soon, the girl begins to think that her boobs are her best friend.
After a while, girls begin to think that their boobs are their best asset, so their whole wardrobe revolves around that. Can I tell you something? If your boobs are your best asset and the best thing you have going for you, then there's something wrong with you. You better have a lot more to offer than your boobs, or you will never find a good guy.
If you go to any dating site, you see it full of profiles with girls with pictures in bikinis, short skirts, and full of cleavage shots. I often ask myself, "Who are you trying to attract?" I see girls, very young and even old, wearing these clothes that leave very little to the imagination. It's a cry for attention.
Just because a guy checks out your cleavage doesn't mean he likes you. It means he enjoys the free show you're giving him. If someone were to walk down the street naked, people would stare, whether they were attractive or not. It's human to pay attention to something that is out of the ordinary. And the closer and closer that wearing clothes gets to not wearing anything at all, people are going to stare. So just because you get attention, doesn't mean anything. And ask yourself this question: Do you want a guy to like you for WHO you are, or for WHAT you have?
Remember when you were a kid and your mom asked you what you wanted for dinner? How did you reply? "Ice cream and candy" of course. Now did your mom give it to you? Probably not. Why? Because she knew that even though you wanted it, it wasn't good for you and you'd end up with a stomach ache. Now sure, guys will tell you they want cleavage and skin. But just like when we were little boys what we want and what we need are two different things.
We will always be male, that will never change. But the question is, do you want to attract boys? Or men? Guys look at girls in one of two ways. We either see you as good girlfriend material, or we see you as, good for a roll in the hay. YOU have the power to choose how we see you. If you come off as elegant, classy, with a lot of self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth, then that's what we will see you as. If you see yourself in a lowly manner, with no self-worth, no self-confidence, and no self-esteem, you will reflect that in the way you think, dress and act, and that's how we will see you.
You will always find little boys who love girls that dress in skimpy clothes. They are getting a free show, they don't have to act like real men, and they don't have to treat you like a real woman. What's not to love? Is this really the type of guy you want to attract, a little boy who sees you as a piece of meat?
You don't meet near as many husbands that are cool with their wives dressing in a provactive manner. Why is that? It's because most of them have grown up and have turned into men who see women as a person, and not just a piece of meat. They don't want guys staring and drooling over parts of his wife that should only be reserved for him.
On the flip side of showing off a bunch of cleavage, there are girls who may not have the tools necessary to show a lot of cleavage. And many of these girls who don't, in their minds, their boobs aren't big enough, and therefore become self-conscious. They think their bra size is a flaw, and therefore don't think they are as attractive or as worthy as they should. They feel like less of a woman. They feel inadequate. They fall to the false view that if you don't have big boobs, you're not as attractive, desireable, or don't have as much to offer. All of these are false of course.
Women are very quick to believe false lies about themselves. They're far more likely to believe false lies that destroy their self-esteem, than they are to believe truths that build their self-confidence. They see the attention "girls with big boobs" get who let their boobs hang out, and they think that big boobs=good, so therefore small boobs=bad. I've known countless women who it bothered them so much, that they spent thousands of dollars on boob jobs to correct what they thought the problem was. And instead of wasting thousands of dollars on that, they could have given me thousands of dollars and I could have told them they don't have a boob problem, they have an eye and brain problem.
Let me let you in on some facts. Yes, FACTS. SCIENCE, MATH, CHEMISTRY, GEOLOGY, ASTRONOMY. FACTS. First fact is that small boobs are NOT a flaw. If a girl with small boobs walks down the street topless, next to a girl with big boobs showing cleavge, who's going to get the most attention? Exactly. So boob size isn't what the guys are focusing on. Like I said earlier, it's the free show they're looking at. So when you think that small boobs are some kind of a flaw, you're stupid, I just proved you wrong, Game, set, match. Boobs are boobs. And if a little boy doesn't like you because of the size of your boobs, is that really a guy that deserves you?
Second fact is that whether or not you get attention plays no role on how atractive you are or aren't. If you show skin, you will get attention, whether you're attractive or not. Just because a guy doesn't approach you doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive. The majority of us guys are intimidated by beautiful women, and are afraid of rejection, and therefore won't approach you and tell you that they find you attractive. So just because guys aren't approaching you, doesn't mean that you aren't attractive.
The third thing is that for you to be happy, for you to find true love, YOU HAVE TO HAVE SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-CONFIDENCE, AND SELF-WORTH. There is no "ifs," "ands," or "buts," unless of course it's a nice "but." It's non-negotiable. If you have no self-esteem, you will definitely attract guys who will be sure to prove that you're right in the fact that you don't deserve a good guy.
If you want to be happy, put your boobs away. Stop focusing on them, worrying about them, using them as a tool for attention, or using them as tool to destroy your self-esteem. If you are an amazing woman, and you are attracting a great guy, your boobs are the last thing he's going to worry about, I promise. To him, boobs are just the two cherries on top.
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