A great guy is a guy who has what all women want. He has an awesome personality that attracts people around him. He has a positive attitude, and gives off a great vibe. He is confident in who he is, and knows what he wants. He knows he's not the best looking guy on the planet, but he knows he doesn't have to be. He knows he doesn't have to attract every single female, just one good one. Chances are, he has a great job. And if he doesn't, he is on the path to being successful, whatever that means to him.
He doesn't need a woman, but he wants one to come alongside him and join him on his journey of life. He is patient in finding the right girl. He knows he can afford to be patient because he knows he has the odds in his favor. If you ask any guy if they know beautiful women, chances are they know plenty. But ask any girl if she knows any single, great guy, chances are she doesn't. So he knows that beautiful women are a dime-a-dozen, yet there are very few great guys. So he knows he can be patient and find a girl who doesn't just have looks, but also has personality and character. The problem is that all of these beautiful women walking around think they can get by on looks alone, and that's the furthest thing from the truth. Yes, guys love beautiful women. But a great guy won't be attracted to looks alone.
Here are the 11 fastest ways to lose a great guy.
Smoking - It's 2016. Smoking is disgusting. It hasn't been cool since the 1960's. And even then it was disgusting. Now don't get me wrong, I understand that there are successful guys who smoke. But if an amazing guy doesn't smoke, he's going to find it disgusting. But if a guy smokes, he won't have a problem with a girl who doesn't smoke. Obviously the same thing applies to drugs. If a guy has his life and act together, he has better things to do than to screw it up with drugs.
Dressing slutty - If a girl dresses slutty, it means she wants a guy to notice her body. Now yes, you show skin, you will get attention from all the frat boys. But a great guy sees this cry for attention and knows that if your body is the best thing you have going for you, then you're not the one for him. He wants to like a girl for who she is, not what she has.
Being cocky/stuck up - A guy wants a girl who has confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth. But one of the most unattractive traits a beautiful girl can have is being cocky and stuck-up. What's the difference between confident and cocky? I define it as this. Confidence is knowing YOU CAN do something, cockiness is thinking YOU DESERVE IT. If your looks are an 8, but your personality is a 3, then you're a 3. If you think you're amazing because you're pretty, then obviously you don't look around very often, because pretty girls are everywhere. So thinking you're better than a guy because you are hot is just plain dumb. Like I said, pretty girls are a dime-a-dozen, but finding an amazing guy is pretty rare. And you find all these beautiful girls dating douchebags. Why is that? Because most great guys are smart enough to stay away.
You're a PTG - Not a pig, but a P-T-G: A Party Trampy Girl. A girl who comes into work bragging about how wasted she got over the weekend, and how hungover she is. A great guy who has his life together has no desire to be in a relationship with a girl who's stuck acting like a sorority girl. He's past that stage in his life and has no desire to return to it.
Being ungrateful - This is a big one that some girls just never get, especially beautiful girls. Some girls get so used to guys doing stuff for them because they're pretty that they just take it for granted. A great guy is unselfish and loves going out of his way to do something for a worth-while girl. The problem is when a girl isn't grateful, or doesn't appear grateful. A great guy will not waste his time being unselfish on a girl who takes it for granted. He knows what he has to offer is too great to waste on a girl who doesn't appreciate it.
Flirting with other guys - Girls that flirt with all the guys usually has self-esteem issues. They crave and need the constant attention from guys because it feeds their insecurities. A great guy does not want a girl who has to have attention to feel good about herself. Also, if a girl has a lot of guy friends, and no girl friends, it's a huge red flag. It means that she doesn't get along with girls, which means she has no close girlfriends who can be there and give her advice and keep her on the right path.
Being too crazy/emotional/sensitive - We understand you're women. We know that we will never understand what you and your body go through. With that being said a guy doesn't want to have to walk on eggshells in fear of saying something that will make a girl turn into the Hulk. He wants to be able to joke around with her without her taking it personal and get defensive. We understand that all women are crazy, but we want one that's less crazy than the others. We want to be able to sleep at night without worrying about you slashing our tires.
Having drama - I've never, ever, met a girl who said they like drama. Instead they all say they can't stand it, and avoid it. And then they'll turn right around and make some snide comment about what another girl is wearing, about their makeup, or something similar. Drama doesn't have to be a big blown up deal where people are fighting and arguing. Drama comes in many forms. And if you're constantly judging other girls, it means you don't hate drama, but you enjoy creating it.
Being shallow/materialistic - A great guy wants to take care of and spoil his girl. Now it's not always about buying her things. Sometimes it's just about being romantic and spoiling her in creative ways. If you're the type of girl who only cares about money and things it can definitely be a turn off to a good guy. Also, if you're shallow and like to judge other people for whatever reason, it's also just not attractive to guys. A guy wants a girl who has enough confidence to not compare herself to other girls. He doesn't want a girl who tears other girls down to make herself feel better. He wants a girl who feels so good about herself that she wants to lift other girls up and make them feel good about themselves.
Being lazy/out of shape - There is no such thing as a perfect body. And every person has a different preference on body type. But with that being said, no guy wants a lazy and out of shape girl. If a guy is a great guy, chances are, he cares about his body. He might not go to the gym 14 times a week, but he at least takes care in how he looks and is open and willing to take the steps necessary to improve the way he looks. If a guy goes to the gym and is in shape, why would he go for a lazy and out of shape girl? He wouldn't. If it's important to him to go to the gym, then obviously it's important to find someone who cares about taking care of their body.
Being too stubborn to grow and change - There are some girls who read this list and will immediately get defensive and say, "If any guy has a problem with that, then I don't want him." Guess what, you don't have to worry about that. A great guy is great because he wants to grow, improve and change into a better man. He doesn't want to stay the same. He wants a woman who comes alongside him and makes him a better man. He wants to be challenged to become better. But with that being said, he wants a female that has the same mind-set. If you are too stubborn to grow, improve, and change, then he doesn't want you. He has better things to do then to waste his time on a stubborn female that would rather be stubborn and stay the same, than find a great guy who makes her better. So if you have a problem with one of these things on the list, guess what, you found a great way to lose a guy. It's not about what you want, it's about what a great guy is looking for. If you don't want a great guy, then don't worry about it. But if you do, stop being stubborn, and be open to growing as a friend, as a woman, and as a person.
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