Now I know the first thing you're thinking. The first thought that crossed your brain was that only one of those words starts with "c" and Flexibility doesn't even have a "c" in it. Well my friends, you failed the first test. Because if you were FLEXIBLE, you would have thought, "Hmm... that doesn't start with 'c' like it should, but that's ok, I can go with it." Sometimes things just don't make sense. If you're a woman, how often do you think to yourself, "Men just make 0 sense." And if you're a man, have you ever thought, "Women are so confusing and make no sense"?
Obviously when you're in a relationship, you're going to have times where you don't agree on something. Life would be very boring, and you would never grow as a person if everyone believed the same way you do. So don't think of disagreements as a bad thing. It's actually a good thing. But there are right ways and wrong ways to disagree. There are 3 main things you need when you disagree, so that it doesn't turn into a full blown argument.
The first thing you need is communication. If couples would just communicate more, be more open, and honest with the small things, things wouldn't get out of control. Misunderstandings would be just that, misunderstandings. They wouldn't lead to something bigger than they needed to be. And if you got in the habit of sharing your feelings, and hearing them share theirs, you wouldn't be so thin-skinned where everything that was said would bother you. You would learn that sometimes people feel something that is outside of their control. But if you can get it out on the table and work through it, it doesn't have to be an issue.
The second thing you need is patience. First, you need patience on telling your side. Let the other person give their side, WHILE YOU LISTEN ATTENTIVELY, and understand what they are saying, and more importantly, WHY THEY BELIEVE THEIR SIDE. You also need to be patient when maybe their side might hurt or upset you. Understand why they are feeling that way while you put your feelings aside for the moment. But if you're patient with everything, you won't jump to conclusions, jump to anger, or jump to anything else that isn't healthy, and things can go at a slow pace where everyone can work through them.
The third thing you need is flexibility. Flexibility is a lot like compromise. But to me, sometimes compromise sounds like a lose/lose. You'll hear someone say, "Well I wanted this, and I know I couldn't get it, so we compromised." Many times it's a win/win, but to me, flexibility just sounds more positive and makes it seem like it's no big deal. If both parties are flexible in what they want, it doesn't seem like you're giving anything up. And while giving something up for your significant other is a good thing, sometimes we take it as we are being a doormat, which is definitely an unhealthy feeling. But the more flexible both people are, the more things overlap, and the less rough edges, tension, and fighting occurs. We should all learn to be more flexible in our daily lives. We don't always have to have it exactly the way we want it. It's a very unhealthy attitude to have in life. We should be more laid-back, more go-with-the-flow, and just enjoy life. The more you let life happen the more the small things don't upset you or affect your life in a negative way. But just remember that your significant other is the one you're supposed to care most about, so why is it that let our disagreemnts get so far out of hand? It should never be you vs. them, but rather, you + them = something stronger than before your disagreement.
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